Helpers are very friendly, and in turn they are good at forming friendships with others. The most important aspects of their life are family, friendship, love, closeness, and sharing. They are especially good at giving attention to others and being generous and loving.

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The people who belong to this type are very empathetic, warm, and have the capability to easily feel the needs of others and to satisfy them. 

 

Helpers can push their opinion by offering help and trying to make decisions for others. They take all of these actions in order to escape from their biggest fear — a fear of being unwanted/unneeded. They believe that they have to do something in order to win the love and acceptance of others.

 

During childhood, Helpers learn that you must first meet the needs of others before you meet your own; that you have to give in order to receive;  and that you have to fight for the love and attention of others because love is not something which is easily given. 

This is how the self-worth of this type is born, through the idea that "if I give I am needed and loved."  

 

To be constantly good in the eyes of others has its price, and often people of this type have to give up their habit of acting "for others" in order to create a truly positive connection with others. Over time, this model of life creates a repressed feeling and inner anger, following the ignorance of personal needs. This can be a life journey for The Helper — to create harmonious relationships where both individuals' personal needs are met.

 

The Helper must find an inner love which does not depend on the judgement of others. Love can be more than simply giving and receiving. When they find more inner love and care for themselves, they become personalities who shine with love for others.